The WEGOHEALTH Activist 30 Day Writing Challenge Day 8
“Happy Hump Day! No denying life can get hectic,
but let’s take a mid-week break to fantasize our
ideal day! Would you go somewhere? Who would
you spend it with? Have you had this day? If not –
how could you make it happen?”
Okay, this is a hard one, and I don’t know how many people will be reading my post after the US Presidential election, but, my ideal day would be to sit all day and eat delicious goodies and not gain any weight or get sick from the sugar.
My ideal day would be if my mother had not developed a multiple heart condition and had to go through the difficult ordeal that it has brought her. It has been so stressful and heartbreaking to experience the trials of her life-changing experience that has affected her, her family, her friends and a whole peripheral group of people.
You see, if I could really change that, I’d have to change my great-auntie’s congestive heart failure that lead to her death that broke my mother’s heart. My mother was her caregiver and they lived side-by-side for fifteen years. She declined at age 94 and my mother was unable to come to terms with it. She was also unable to relinquish control as a caregiver and as such, worked her 80+ body into exhaustion. The day my great Sophie died, my mother was beyond exhausted. As the days went on, her grief magnified and she ended up in the ER. That was a turning point and I knew that my mother was in trouble. However, I seemed to be the only one that understood what she needed. She needed “the ideal day.” To go on holiday, to go off and rest. But she would not go. She had to “get all the affairs in order.” She had clear her desk. The thing is, though, the heart won’t wait. The heart wants, what the heart wants. I tried to provide a safe, quiet, peaceful place in my home for her to recover. But people just could not come up to speed and understand the seriousness of my mother’s condition. So my ideal day would be for everyone to listen to their heart and act accordingly. I ask this because you only get one original heart. When it breaks, either figuratively or literally, it reverberates out to all the other hearts connected to it. Everything we do, affects the lives of those we love or don’t love. It affects people we don’t know. It also affects an entire medical profession, community and healthcare system and insurance industry. Heart disease is the number one killer of woman. Maybe it’s because we haven’t got the message that as caregivers, (and the majority of caregivers are woman), we aren’t putting ourselves first. We neglect our own health because we think that our families are more important than us, but the truth is, without us, our families fall apart. Because woman are the nucleus of the family. Everything else orbits around them. So my ideal day would be the day everyone realizes this and we start expecting even indoctrinating the teaching that “Mother”or “Woman” is not to be idolized, or honored on a special day, but to be treated everyday as the precious treasure that she is by not allowing her to neglect her health. Because her health, is our health. Her pain and sorrow, is our pain and sorrow. Her love and devotion is her gift to us so let’s not be ungrateful. Let’s honor our mother by being peaceful toward her, being respectful and kind, being obedient and loving and most of all, giving her the love and appreciation she deserves so she can reach her full potential and have a long, happy, full and satisfied life.
That would be my ideal day. I can not accomplish that alone. You have to do with me. Becoming a supporter of your mother’s health is the best gift you can ever give her. This is gift that keeps on giving because you are giving it also to yourself, those who love her, and preserving her for as long as possible for the benefit of everyone. Mothers, woman, are a gift from God. They are necessary for the happiness in life. So please give me my ideal day by becoming your mother’s health support. The whole world will benefit.
Thank you in advance! ❤️️